So many people are constantly cursing time. Time is the enemy. I’m always running out of time. Those kids have too much time on their hands. What a waste of my time, the list goes on...
Time is a very powerful force in our reality. Essentially, it stops everything from happening all at once. It gives us spaces between events. It gives us purpose to build up motion, momentum. Without time, the process of our life would be immeasurable. Age would not matter and events would cease to exist: much like us.
Even looking a time as merely linear, (although there are schools of thought which would argue for it being more complex than that) the simplicity of time, gives us a boundary.
Imagine this scenario; you are the only thing in the universe. There you are, just floating around, then, suddenly a line is drawn; it is the ground. Suddenly, there is definition. There is something separate from your self. You are now bound by gravity and are brought to the ground, and there is sky. Now take this example and apply it to time.
Time is like that line that is drawn. It acts as a grounding force. Otherwise all events would be all jumbled up or occurring simultaneously - this would make any thought of your own, incomprehensible. Just how could you separate events, let alone your consciousness, from everyone and everything else? Just like you floating about above, what is the difference between yourself, the universe or nothing, without anything else there to define you?
This line, a timeline, gives your consciousness, your existence a way of understanding itself. A way of separating itself from others, from the jumble of thoughts and parallels in a connected space. So really, rather than cursing time we should be praising it - and appreciating the wonder of it.
Even if you do appreciate time, this is not to say when the bus does run late you won’t get annoyed, or if being sick feels like an eternity of pain. Sometimes it feels like the good times are over in a flash, and sometimes that pay cheque does come early. Like anything in life, it has its good and bad moments. But, beyond what time delivers us, how can we make it work to our advantage?
I’m no professional theorist; however I know that thoughts affect things. And what you think about, you create. Let us take a side step here to put some factors of life into context. There are few ways you can categorise things in your life. On a SIMPLE level: who, what, where, when, why and how.’ Let’s look into that more.
When, is obviously the factor of time, as we’re discussing. Although time overrides us in a general sense, we may chose to be somewhere at a certain point, or go to the show now, or in an hour, or whenever you like. Many factors affect when this event could take place. I shall return to this point later.
Without going into too much detail, Who, what, where is the context, the situation involved in that time. Who: could be myself, yourself, the
cat in the room, the lovely lady on the magazine cover or the old man across the street. The millions of people affect our life directly or
indirectly. What: is the goings on. The context. The parts. The ice-cream is what I’m about to eat. The chair I’m going to sit on. A
professional I desire to be, say a doctor. Where, the place of any event: The football field, the corner shop where I buy the ice cream. These
are the main things we have control over in our lives, and are at the front of our awareness.
The driving force behind acquiring or wanting these things, or the Why, is the motivator: the reasons we go through time seeking out such
things. Why I chose what ice cream to by, why I chose where to buy it. Why I wanted it when I did. Beyond all this, why, is also the key to
the lessons we learn, making sense of it all, and to give our life direction, and meaning.
How: is our way of doing things? It gives us a way of planning to make things happen a certain way. And how, although we have some control
over, is ultimately what you leave up to the universe.
So bringing this back to time, why did I just go through all of that. As I said, time affects things. And all of the types of things mentioned above.
Our choices often involve the who, what and when. There are endless reasons why we want such things, or anything for that matter. Sometimes
you may desire a simple thing, like wanting caramel vanilla ice cream, now, from this little shop over there. But beyond something that is as easily
attainable and obvious as to how you should get it, so many people use time as an excuse to not get what they want. Or, they see it as an obstacle. In the end, it is all an excuse.
How many people do you hear go, I wish I had the time to do such and such but I’m just too busy. And very rarely do people disagree. They simply go along with this notion. Yes time is a governing factor but it doesn’t have to be your master. You can make time work for you, yes you heard me!
Ok, so you want to go on a holiday to Bali for a week. The excuse list is as such: oh I can’t have time off work, I have to work more hours to be able to afford it etc etc... List another million excuses here. The universe and time reward commitment to an idea. Over time, the force behind this commitment grows stronger, until something has to come of it. The first and most simple step is this:
1. Make a date, a time, and write it down
Ok, this sounds so simple, but you’re never going to get to that holiday if you don’t try to set a date. So the holiday isn’t next week – I’m not being totally unrealistic. But giving yourself a point in time, a deadline, gives you something to work towards.
Now you’ve made the first step! What do you do?
2. Make an action, towards this goal, to build momentum
Go up to your boss, and set a date for say 6 months from now. Congratulations! Guess what you have just done!? You have made an action resulting in your goal becoming closer in time. You’ve given yourself time to make other smaller steps, to make this goal come to realisation! Giving your self a limit or a deadline in time, acts as an anchor. It grounds your goal, to a point in time, so it gives you reason to make small steps towards this point on the horizon. Soon enough you will be sailing away on that cruise ship like you wanted. But not so fast, just remember, once you’ve made initial action
3. You must continue to make small steps along the way to reach your desired goal
Book the cruise ship. Work an extra hour or three a week to save up some spending money. Get your passport ready. Pack your suitcase, organise for your kids or pets to be looked after, get to the port and sail away. Now when you break it down, is it really that hard?
People get so lost in thinking about how complicated a scenario is as a whole, and forget to break it down into parts. Why leave everything to the last minute and be so stressed out? Time ALLOWS you stop everything from needing to be done all at once – if you have that option, why not take it?
Plan early; break it down into little segments. And this doesn’t just apply to the big things. It applies to all areas of life. Don’t wake up and go ‘I have so much cleaning to do!’ write a list. Decide what needs to be done now. Decide what can wait. The worst you can do is to do nothing. So don’t panic and then procrastinate. Make the most of a precious gift that has been given to you!
I will leave you with this notion for now, and give you time to practice this: Next month I will discuss perhaps some of the more abstract notions of time, and how intention, can affect outcomes in ways you couldn’t imagine…