A Soulful Life

Choosing ‘how’ you experience life is the key…

We are each on a great journey; starting at birth and ending at death, and that is a certainty. But the paths we take and what we do is entirely up to us. There may be events that our soul has decided to experience which are pre-ordained but how we experience them is entirely down to us. In that we have absolute free will. World renowned intuitive and popular speak, Joylina Goodings, explains the importance of living life with less stress and more soul, embracing all experiences as an opportunity to learn, grow and make the best of being human.

When our soul incarnated it did so to express a certain quality; compassion, strength, understanding, devotion, and so we began our soul’s journey in human form. The purpose of our soul’s existence is to ‘experience’. “God broke himself up into many pieces to experience itself”, to quote Neale Donald Walsh. This, some say, is made up of many independent journeys called ‘lifetimes’. These lifetimes are made up of minutes, days, weeks, months, years but above all experiences. Like other journey’s, such as going to and from work, we often take the same route every day. But sometimes something happens; an accident, a traffic jam, and we take a different direction. We still get home, we still get to the same place but we have had a different experience. Even on the same journey home, you may one day be sitting in the traffic jam feeling frustrated, yet other days you turn on the radio and enjoy the music instead of getting frustrated. You always have the choice of how you experience each moment of the day.

Our experiences in childhood set the pattern for how we experience our lives. We may have a pre-planned life, things our soul wants to experience; say great love, or loss, or humility or adoration. But whatever the overall life plan may be, we all have similar experiences at some time in our life. For instance as adults and sometimes even as children, we suffer loss. It may come in the form of the loss of a parent, sibling, child, relationship, friend or even a beloved pet. Each circumstance is different. The experience of each individual is different because we are unique beings, we experience things in our own unique ways and often circumstances are different. But the loss is the same. My mother died suddenly when I was 9 years old, a friend’s mother died suddenly when she was ll. I come across many people who have lost a parent when they were children. What happened to them was different. Some deaths occurred through were illness or accidents, one a suicide. Some children, like me were packed off to the country out of the way, and for some life went on just the same, back to school next day. We have something in common, we can empathise with each other, but we can’t know the others experience because we are not them and they are not us.

Our cultures and our families often decree the experiences we will have in our early life. Our brains; our ego personalities, are programmed from the experiences, rightly and wrongly. We make assumptions. Even as babies we learn and make assumptions. Suppose we are born into a family who already has many children and little money. We are just one more mouth to feed. We cry but there is not time or energy left. We cry and mum snaps angrily at us. We don’t know why. We end up feeling we have done something wrong even if we have not. At that particular moment we simple feel unloved and ask “Why aren’t we loved?” We make a huge assumption and jump to the conclusion we are not good enough. Thoughts and feelings of low self-esteem, lack of confidence, feelings of not being able, not being good enough, others seem to do it so why can’t we. These are what hold us back from enjoying our life.

We may have many lifetimes but we only have this minute in this lifetime now. We can choose to look at the positive things. We can choose to realise that in the terms of our soul, perhaps we are just babies and we are learning. We don’t have to be able to do everything perfectly, we could just allow ourselves to know we are okay now; we are learning new things and new skills and becoming better at life every day. We may not have control over what happens to us in life, i.e. if we’re made redundant that’s not necessarily our fault that’s just unfortunate, but how we experience this event is up to us. Is it a golden opportunity to get out of a job we did not like? Is it a disaster, that knocks our confidence and we must find another job asap? Does it leave us feeling that it was our fault and we were not good enough? We have choice over how we experience the event, even if not over the event itself. Also if we have been made redundant more than once is there something we are doing that we can do differently? What can we learn from the experience to help us move forward? Perhaps we are a round peg in a square hole and just need to tweak the way we work or the area we work in.

And we are not alone. We are surrounded by love and support in the forms of other people, guides and guardians. If you can imagine that we are all from the same energy, and that this energy/creative-life-force can take many forms, than perhaps you can , like millions of others, relate to a sense of being protected, guided by forces, beings other than human. A popular collective of such ‘lighter’, or ‘higher’ beings are Angels. Most are familiar with their role and their place in modern times and for many millions more this seems too much a ‘man-made’ creation. But think of them as incarnations of positive qualities to enrich and enlighten our experiences of this life, like Love, Compassion, Joy, Forgiveness, etc. then you may begin to ‘see’ our feel there presence much more easily and readily, even in other people. They are there to help you but they can only help when you ask them to. You can ask the Angel of Joy to come into your life and you can start to notice what makes you joyous, so you can do more of it. You can experience joy. You will have experienced in your life at some time, you just need to start to focus on it more. And where you choose to focus your mind and your experience is entirely up to you each moment of the day.

You can invite the angels (positive qualities) into your life and ask them to show you how you may have made miss-assumptions in the past. You can experience unconditional love just by asking, in every area of your life. They can only bring you what you need from a soul perspective. This is not about controlling your life with your ego personality. The things you want that you have been conditioned to want in our society. It is for you to gain knowledge and understanding of your soul self, the quality you incarnated to bring to the world, your special gift, of what is really important to you. Many years ago I asked for help with exams I was taking. I passed these exams but it was not long afterwards that I realised that I had only taken them because I had needed to know I could pass them. I needed the confidence that pass brought me. After I had achieved the goal I had set myself, if found I was still not happy so I could give it up, confident in the knowledge that I could achieve when I wanted to. Now all I needed to know was what did I want to achieve in the longer term? What were the qualities I wanted to experience in my life? Riches, i.e. well paid job, big house, big car, or was there something more important to me. Just like many people are asking now – what is important in life, who am I, what do I want and need to make me happy. Happiness, living a ‘soulful’ life is not in what you have from out there but from what you have built and have inside. Experiencing and getting to know the real divine angelic you, the best qualities of who your are and expressing that confidently in the world as you grow and experience the true joys of living and loving in a human body. It’s the journey that’s important not the destination, so choose to enjoy your journey.  

© Joylina Goodings 2011
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