Sometimes in our life we want to change things so bad that we just don’t know how to nor where to start. Being ‘us’ can be hard as we are never sure what people want from us, nor what they expect from us.

Is changing things in our lives such a bad thing to do? Not at all, sometimes you just need to put yourself first and stop worrying about others and their views. This isn’t always easy, especially if you are a nurturer of nature, this could be a mother figure who wants to protect her clan or her family, animals do this very often as they want to support and care for there younger members of family.

Most people have affirmation cards nowadays, but when we use them why don’t we listen to them?. Affirmation cards give you a light to shine or they show you something that you need to dig deep within to see or to find in yourself. So when we want things to change around us why don’t we listen to them?. If you want to make yourself enjoy your day, how about looking at things in your life as a lesson, take on board things that you learn on an everyday basis and ask for better things to come your way. Don’t dwell on bad or negative things from the past as this will only attract more to you and around you.

When friends want to ask advice on difficult situations, don’t take there problems to you heart otherwise they will stay with you. Remind your friends when they want to share a problem, that it is there problem and not yours, and that you will offer your thoughts but ultimately its up to them what they do to make things better or to change things.

If we look deep enough inside us, we all have situations that we want to move away from. These could be childhood memories or memories of loved ones who are no longer with us. Allow these memories to stay in place, but deal with them and remember to ‘’box’’ them up in your mind once they have been dealt with. Loosing people close to us is never easy, mothers, fathers, grandparents, friends etc, they are all very raw and remember this is also the same for family pets. People very often say that loosing a longer term family friend can be just as bad or in some cases worse than loosing family.

Life is always a lesson and so is everything around it. We will always have people coming and going in our lives. Relationships are never easy, but we must look at what we have learnt from them. Relationships fall apart for a reason, loves ones always appear to be good on the inside and outside until something goes wrong and then we remember the faults and all the mistakes that have been made in the past. Don’t ever take things to heart, change is good.

Moving home can be difficult as we have our sights set on what we want out of life, plus there are always hundreds of memories around, but as you are packing up things in your home to move, look on those memories that will always be close to you and that you take with you. Bad memories are better being left behind.

Changes at work can affect us is so many ways, changing offices, desks, rooms etc, can all leave you feeling down in the dumps, but this has to be taken as a positive move.

Change is good, as long as we learn from it and respect it. Change allows you to move on in your life to better things and things that are needed. We as individuals tend to hold onto safe areas of our lives because we know them well.

As mediums we help people move on from numerous circumstances, they want to make things better in their lives and leave the past behind. This doesn’t always mean moving on from grieving for a loved one, but it does mean dealing with it. We offer advice to people who aren’t sure on what road to take next, or what it will hold. The one thing that I know we are all capable of is moving on and making things better around us.

Remember Change is Good!… being stagnant is bad.

© Barrie John 2010
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